Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial on Oct 7th, 2011
This post on US News’s “Money” site is actually just about a year old, but the advice is absolutely apt. I encourage you to visit the original article because there’s some good food for thought with the description of each mistake. Here they are, in brief:
Not talking about finances.
Combing accounts too early.
Sharing credit cards, real [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership on Sep 22nd, 2011
This release from the Association for Psychological Science offers some valuable insight into what individuals going through a divorce can do to feel better. Citing a study that will be released in Psychological Science–the association’s journal–the finding is that “self-compassion” predicts better adjustment after the divorce and up to nine months later. Self-compassion in this [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial, Prenuptial/postnuptial on Feb 7th, 2011
This post on HuffingtonPost.com and this piece on Oprah.com (from the February 2011 issue) both have good–and similar–advice on how to handle financial issues going into a relationship.
The bottom line is that it’s best to talk about these things upfront, when you’re looking at moving in together or getting married, rather than later [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Parenting on Jul 2nd, 2010
Here is a story about parenting and divorce. Long story short, it’s conflict that is hard for kids and not divorce. To quote study researcher Constance Gager, “Don’t stay together for the sake of the children if you’re in a high conflict marriage.” Divorce may be difficult for kids in the short term, in [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership on Mar 4th, 2010
This story cites newer studies, the results of which are that living together before marriage doesn’t necessarily increase the risk of divorce. The old news was that having lived together before marriage meant that a couple was more likely to split up.
The take home lesson? “It’s couples who give into the urge to merge households [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Offbeat on Sep 4th, 2009
On the lighter side…
I’ve posted previously about a UK attorney who encourages couples contemplating divorce to take dance lessons. Today’s news bring this story about “divorce tourism” in India. Yes, divorce tourism.
On one hand, the cynic in me says that a couple who is having problems may find the stresses of travel to exacerbate tensions. [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Parenting on Aug 20th, 2009
This story in the Chicago Tribune is about a six-week long class for divorced or separating parents, aimed at helping them focus on what’s best for their children. (Seattle’s King County requires parents to attend a four-hour class…I can only imagine what it would take to put together a six-week long class.) It’s great to [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Parenting on Aug 17th, 2009
“Americans Marry Too Much” is the title of this story on Newsweek.com. Andrew Cherlin, a sociologist at Johns Hopkins University, has written a book entitled “The Marriage-Go-Round” that cites Americans’ divorce and remarriage as the cause for disruption in their children’s lives because of a “revolving cast” of parents, step-parents and live-in significant others.
An interesting [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial on Aug 14th, 2009
Here’s a short version of some divorce budgeting tips. The longer version is here. While not all of these steps may be possible, particularly trying to stockpile savings when going from one household to two, it’s worth considering what steps you can take!
1. Make order of the bills.
2. Organize important records.
3. Determine spending each month.
4. [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership on Aug 6th, 2009
This recently story in the New York Times describes the physical health impact of going from being married to being single (whether by divorce or a spouse’s death). Similar to some German research I heard about years ago, the impact of the loss of a spouse is one that lingers. And, apparently, it’s the loss [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial on Jul 8th, 2009
Here’s some good, solid financial advice. It’s refreshing after the other two posts today about divorce drama and uncertainty. Here is a rundown of the helpful post-divorce financial planning steps.
Here’s the Cliff Notes version:
Start with a financial planner.
Talk with an estate planning attorney.
Make a guardianship plan for your kids.
Plan for special needs kids.
Re-visit insurance.
Review account [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial on Jun 26th, 2009
I like simple, helpful and easy-to-understand advice. MSN Canada features that in this story about how our global financial troubles are affecting newlyweds. Let me take their advice and make it even more simple…
Should a couple be:
Discussing financial compatibility before marriage?
Good idea!
Becoming more cautious about excessive spending that leads to high debt?
Good idea!
Averting problems that [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership, Financial on Apr 6th, 2009
As of the end of the week, the stock market ended on an upturn. It gained for the fourth consecutive week, and it’s doing better than it has for the last seven weeks. I’m happy to hear this and I hope the trend continues.
Still, the market is down from its 2007 high of around 14,000 [...]
Posted in Divorce, Domestic Partnership on Mar 5th, 2009
In health news reported today, a researcher at the University of Utah has claimed that women are more negatively affected by a relationship marked by anger and arguing than men. While both men and women from such relationships were more likely to feel depressed than those in a happier marriage, it is the women in [...]